Monday, October 26, 2009

Mi Pobre Hijo, My Ass

Tonight I heard something come out of my boyfriend's mother's mouth and I wanted to ring her neck. It's not as if I haven't heard what she said come out of her mouth before, but tonight I was feeling in one of those moods where it was impossible to tolerate stupid behavior from a fellow woman.

My boyfriend, his mother and I were sitting at the kitchen table chatting about his brother having just placed a bid on a foreclosed house. His mother gave me an apple to eat and I stood up to wash it off at the kitchen sink. As I was standing there, she said, "Mi'jo [my son] wants a plate of food".

I turned around to look at him because we had just eaten prior to going to her house. He stared at me with a smirk on his face, because I'm sure that he was well aware that shit was going to soon hit the fan and sparks were going to start flying.

I said, "We just ate. He doesn't want anything".

She said, "Oh, yes he does. I know he does. Please serve him a plate of food."

Are you antagonizing me, bitch?

I said, "If he's hungry he can make a plate for himself".

She said, "Oh, mi pobre hijo!!! (my poor son). He has a woman who doesn't even care if he starves to death."

I flipped around and told her, "If your pobre hijo wants something to eat, then he can make his own damn plate. And he can serve me a nice plate too, while he's at it".

Then she said, "Oh, I wish he would have married a nice girl like Marielena. She would have given him a plate".

Who, the Marielena on the corner with four kids and a cheating husband? Marielena the doormat? I don't think so.

I sat there for another twenty minutes and listened to her whine about whether or not I would ever marry her son, how we should live together, when will we ever have children, why will I not baptize my children if we ever decide to have children, blablabla. I wanted to slap the hell out of her, but honestly she is very, very ill and I just didn't have it in me to beat the shit out of a sick, old lady. So I just let her go on and on.

This is the thing about so many Latina mothers that makes me want to vomit. This kind of mentality has been shoved down my throat since I was a wee little girl. I'm so sick of watching Latina women baby and coddle their pobre little hijos. It happened to me as a child with my brother, it happens in my family, and I've even seen some of my former friends do it when they have little boys. Enough already, please. I would like to hope that my generation is not pulling this same crap, but deep in my heart I know that many of them are.

It's little things like these, that even happen in our very own families, that the unconventional women of the world have to deal with on an everyday basis.


Marga Britto said...

I only have one thing to say about that overprotective attitude of "some" latinas (and non latinas too), mothers towards the sons (Hijitos):

Wicked Bitch, Latina Fatale said...


Yeah, you're right. It totally transcends culture and ethnicity. But it pisses me off even more with latina mothers because, well, you know.

Anne K. in L.A. said...

As the wife of a Latino, I feel for you. My mother-in-law has a similar mentality except she has a different style of message delivery. She takes me out for margaritas. Then she passive-aggressively tries to tell me what to do. Thank God! I'm drunk by the time she really gets going.

Anonymous said...

Not just latinas, it's much more widespread than that. It's my German grandmother admonishing me for not staying up late so I could feed my drugging cheating husband who embarrassed me for the last time when he no-showed for my birthday with my grandmother in town. It's my Italian grandmother who ironed her 30, then 40, then 50year-old son's shirts right up to the day she died. It's the family of the Scandinavian boy where the women cooked, set the table, cleared the table, did the dishes, and cleaned some more while the men sat around scratching their balls. And when I suggested that perhaps the men might clear the table & do the dishes I was the freak. In BOTH gender's eyes!

Wicked Bitch, Latina Fatale said...

Yes, of course it is much more widespread!

Anonymous said...

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Wicked Bitch, Latina Fatale said...

*you know you love me, you know you love me*, or you wouldn't keep reading.

Wicked Bitch, Latina Fatale said...

It's funny to me that someone who is so big and bad doesn't link back to their own blog, twitter. Pot calling the kettle black.

Ariana said...

ohmygosh, we were having this discussion in class tonight, and a fellow classmate pulled this up on youtube for us to see...

kinda fitting :)

totally know where you're coming from- i get the we should be married and having kids bullshit on an unfortunate consistent basis followed by the it's what "god" says is right routine. soooo over it.



Absentminded Oracle said...

I needed a good laugh and you provided it. My ex is Jamacian and his mother (the shrew harpie from hell who could suck the life out of a corpse) wanted me to take the bones out of his fish.. I am allergic to fish! Mothers and their sons. Ugh!

C said...

It's not just Latina mothers doing this. My ex husband is white. His mother is just the same. She expects his women (he's been married 3 times- I was the second one) to do everything, not spend any money and keep him organized and well-fed. I was like fuck that shit .... hence why I am divorced because the fucker just wanted it all, me to work and cook and clean and him to just do what the hell he wanted and then have the nerve to have his mother defend him.