tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9057892978219605677.post894672939804698429..comments2023-09-17T04:22:17.878-07:00Comments on Bad Ass Femmes: Should I Attend Employees' Special Events and Functions?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9057892978219605677.post-45036252993725342532010-08-21T12:06:00.067-07:002010-08-21T12:06:00.067-07:00If you start attending these events, you might fin...If you start attending these events, you might find that all your time is taken up with them. If you attend one person's event and not others, you risk offending those you don't attend. Enough! Think up good excuses, but don't go. No one should be so emotionally fragile that they get upset if you don't attend their event. You work hard enough. Tghe rest of life should be yours.Soma Senguptanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9057892978219605677.post-83755290939286759302010-08-01T14:48:01.699-07:002010-08-01T14:48:01.699-07:00I work with a woman who does not like social event...I work with a woman who does not like social events. She's made it very plain that, while she enjoys working with us, her time not at work is her time. She's not very forthcoming about her personal life either. And...everyone is fine with it; that's just how she is.<br /><br />Maybe you could do the same; state up front that you don't go to functions; you don't enjoy them and it's not your thing. People will still ask you (because they don't want you to be upset that everyone else was invited and you weren't), but they'll get over it and it will be OK. You are not obligated to give a gift; a card of congratulations is sufficient for a big milestone such as a wedding or birth.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9057892978219605677.post-78667396552859472662010-08-01T12:07:44.758-07:002010-08-01T12:07:44.758-07:00@Meghan When I was a teacher I always invited co-w...@Meghan When I was a teacher I always invited co-worker that I was close to, but they were on my same level also as you mentioned. But I would also go to my students' functions when I was invited, and I feel that it paved the way to fostering deep relationships with the parents and the community.<br /><br />I was wondering if people are inviting me because they are being respectful since I am their boss, as you mentioned. <br /><br />It starts to get to the point where if I attend one, I will have to attend them all-so I guess that I am going to have to just send gifts. But these damn gifts are starting to get expensive considering that the number of people that I oversee are increasing. I'm spending tons of money on people that I don't even know, especially with all the women who are having babies!Adminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07064332985551460339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9057892978219605677.post-67908962415783062902010-08-01T11:59:05.954-07:002010-08-01T11:59:05.954-07:00Really great post that poses a great question. Per...Really great post that poses a great question. Personally, when I was working in an office I had a few co-workers who I was close with and we attended many functions for one another (wedding, b-days, showers, etc.). But we were friends, and were all on the same level professionally. We didn't answer to one another or anything. <br />Etiquette (as I was told at the time) forced me to also invite my boss (a woman) to such events as well. I hated it. I was never interested in spending time with her out of work. It wasn't that I liked or didn't like her, it just made me uncomfortable. Luckily it always appeared that she felt the same way because she always politely declined. <br />The happy medium for all of our departments was that whenever someone was getting married or having a baby, etc. the office would have a small shower for the event. My boss always attended these (in the conference room) with a polite gift and card. That was more than good enough for me. <br /><br />LATER as the owner of a daycare I ran out of my home, I was ALWAYS invited to b-day parties and family events by the people I did daycare for and I always said no. I did not like crossing the line between business and friendship, because it posed to many potential risks. I don't like crossing that line, regardless of what side I'm on, so I agree with you. Say you've got other plans, send a gift and a card and leave it at that.Meghan Harveyhttp://meghankharvey.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com