tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9057892978219605677.post1980196906413482275..comments2023-09-17T04:22:17.878-07:00Comments on Bad Ass Femmes: "You Can't Do That"-The Fine Art of DiscouragementUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9057892978219605677.post-89082262520736645092010-08-20T16:51:50.326-07:002010-08-20T16:51:50.326-07:00It's all about their smooth social and soft sk...It's all about their smooth social and soft skills. An ability to transport positive feelings to their direct environment to which they respond by (verbal) recognition. It's nearly something natural they got...but it's just an impression, nothing more. But an impression they try to maintain whether they want it or not. The problem is later that those people try to maintain their highly payed jobs and positions. This is on what they are in reality working...not losing their job and trying to maintain their positive image with competent employees. They are dependent on their employees!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9057892978219605677.post-17383515170991146742010-04-04T17:24:33.870-07:002010-04-04T17:24:33.870-07:00Yes!! I am told that I'm intimidating (when o...Yes!! I am told that I'm intimidating (when only rarely do I try to be) because I'm organized and competent. That translates into people thinking that I don't need encouragement or words of support. If only I felt as strong and self-assured as others see me, this wouldn't be a problem. Unfortunately, I'm pretty much making it up as I go along, so not letting thoughtless comments cut me has been a difficult lesson to learn.<br /><br />The irony is that giving someone a compliment actually makes you feel good. So why is it so rare?<br /><br />I too see other people far less capable than me get promoted easier and faster. It makes me wonder why I bother to work so hard. I used to aspire to rise to the top, but now that I know all of the douche bags at the top, I've reprioritized my life - and put my career last (after an enormous amount of soul searching).Meg at Demanding Joyhttp://www.demandingjoy.comnoreply@blogger.com